What’s the biggest inner dragon you are slaying?
For most of us, the fiercest battle we face is in our own head.
For years, I battled the ‘inner mean girl’ that never let me be good enough, celebrate a success or truly relish in the beauty of WHO. I. AM.
Finally, two things happened that finally changed my mind:
First, I had a therapist say to me: “It must be really hard living inside your own head. You’re so critical!” (hmmm…hadn’t really considered that before?)
Second, one of my best friend’s was visiting from Brazil. She took one look at the ‘Vision Board’ posted inside my bathroom cabinet and ordered me to immediately go get a big, black sharpie and black out every image that didn’t even remotely resemble me.
“You’re flogging yourself!” she proclaimed in her passionate Rio accent while gesturing a self-whipping. (You mean I’m never going to be a 6ft tall waif thin, model like Gisele?!?)
It wasn’t until that moment when a light bulb went off. I actually had a choice and didn’t have to keep beating myself up. I didn’t have to compare myself to impossibly high standards and always come up short (pun intended).
I could choose to LOVE myself instead. Like, really. LOVE. myself.
Recently, my soul sister from down under, Melissa Ambrosini launched her new book: Mastering Your Mean Girl: The No-BS Guide to Silencing Your Inner Critic and Becoming Wildly Wealthy, Fabulously Healthy, and Bursting with Love. I had the opportunity to interview her a few days ago to talk about what prompted her to write this powerhouse book and why it’s such a big piece of her work.
After creating a seemingly glam life for herself as a sought-after actress, model and dancer, Melissa hit rock bottom. “I still had that loud inner voice telling me I wasn’t good enough, I wasn’t smart enough, pretty enough and I wasn’t skinny enough. I realized that the major work I had to do was heal my relationship with myself.”, she says.
In our short interview we cover the 5 steps to Master Your Inner Mean Girl:
Plus, learn a thought monitoring process to choose the thoughts you focus on and permanently change limiting patterns.
Make friends with your ‘mean girl’. She has something to say and you can help her.
What thoughts interfere with your ability to move forward?
Leave a comment below to let us know what’s holding you back + how you’ll begin to let it go!
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