HAVE A BEGINNER’S MIND
One of the greatest factors contributing to anxiety is a sense of overwhelm: “I don’t know what I’m doing” or “I’m not ready”. The key to alleviating this anxiety is to seek help.
As a psychotherapist, one of the first things we’re trained to assess for is how strong a support system a client has. Do you have people to help guide you, support and encourage you and hold the space for your growth and development?
When we enter into what Buddhism calls – “The Beginner’s Mind” – we humble ourselves, let go of the need to be right and give ourselves permission to not know everything. Ahhh! Sweet relief. To be a student. To sit at the feet of a guru. To not know.
The word “guru” translates to mean the “remover of darkness”. One who sheds light on a particular subject. One who lights the way and paves the path. One who illumines your True Self.
When we sit at the feet of a great teacher, one who has gone before, we are cradled in their expertise, experience and wisdom. Like a warm bath, we feel at ease.
Last week, I had the distinct pleasure and honor of assisting my mentor, supervisor and colleague, Dr. Ron Alexander at his Esalen workshop. It’s been a long time since I sat in the role of student and apprentice in this formal way. I found such simple pleasure in assisting him, anticipating his needs and adding my own unique voice to the group discussion. I remembered that I don’t have to know everything. Inspiration and wisdom pours in when we are soft, receptive, humble and open.
This week, your challenge is to dissolve your need to know everything and seek out a mentor:
Remember, we are all in this together. Building a strong teacher/mentor relationship is one of the best strategies to succeed and know that you are not alone.
In the comments below, please tell us who your greatest mentors and teachers are. Share what strategies reduce your overwhelm. When you’re feeling like you don’t know what you’re doing…what helps most?
Here’s a list of 8 of my greatest teachers (in no particular order):
Please share your mentors + teachers below!