As a psychotherapist, I can tell you that the rise of social media has spawned a rise in that sinking feeling of “not-enough-ness”. I’m lucky enough to hear what’s going on inside people’s heads…and the “Grass Is Always Greener” is one of the greatest mind traps of our time.
Never before has it been so easy to feel like we “should” have __________ by this age. Like we “should” have gotten married or be happier in our current relationship, have 2.5 kids or kids that are more well behaved and better dressed.
What do you do when you find yourself weighed down by your own judgement & self-criticism?
When you’re beating yourself up, comparing yourself to someone else’s highlight reel or judging those around you, the most liberating tool you can develop is compassion or karunā.
Patanjali, emphasized compassion – karuna, in Sanskrit – as one of four attitudes to sustain inner serenity when faced with life’s inevitable challenges.
Maitri Karuna Muditopekshanam Sukhaduhka Punyaapunya Vishayanam Bhavanatah Citta Prasadanam
The mind becomes serene by cultivating feelings of:
• love for the happy
• compassion for the suffering
• delight for the virtuous, and
• equanimity for the non-virtuous
What are you most self-critical about?
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