In honor of my beloved teacher Ram Dass, who passed away two days ago, here is one of my favorite quotes of his:

“If you want to know how awakened you are, go back and spend time with your family.”

As we gather to celebrate whatever holidays you enjoy this season…I’m sure most of us can relate to this. How easy it is to regress into pesky, old patterns that rise up to grip us almost immediately in the presence of family.

Triggers. Tone of voice. Relational patterns. Unmet needs. Unwanted advice. Unhealthy communication.

No doubt…for most of us, our greatest (and most challenging) curriculum on the path of consciousness is our family of origin, the relational patterns, personality traits, coping and defense mechanisms concretized in childhood…and then how these tendencies play out in present day.

Here are my five biggest tips for setting you and your family up for success this holiday season.

Watch this quick video below to learn:

1. Why it’s important to identify your highest values, goals & desired feelings in your relationships
2. How to identify your patterns + triggers…and “pre-rinse” them prior to arrival!
3. How to set + enforce firm, yet flexible boundaries
4. How to guarantee self care + enough alone time
5. Tools to accept, forgive + love people for exactly who they are

Plus…how we can each embody the light of the season and practice the unconditional love of Christ consciousness and the resilience of Hanukkah.

If you struggle with any family members, have an aversion to family gatherings, feel like you “brace yourself” or shut down around others….this is for you!

Learn how to stay centered, clear and compassionate around the people who trigger you most.

Wishing you and all your loved ones a peaceful, safe and joyful holiday season. I am so grateful for each and every one of you!

With love + deep gratitude this holiday season,

Ashley